notes for my husband

1.5 years into my marriage, and I'm still trying to understand how Alok thinks and why he does what he does.  For one, leaving things here and there and not where they are supposed to be.  I keep telling him I may be a housewife but this is not the only thing I want to do all day!  It is easier to put things where they belong right away after using them.  And it is better to get into a habit of doing something or same thing every day.  Simple, right?

But with him?  Oh no.  He wouldn't listen.  So I got an idea.  I became a little more creative than my creative husband...


... because it never goes back into the toothpaste holder ...

... and I started putting notes on things and places all around the apartment.


After pouring honey on waffles at breakfast, it just never goes back into the pantry.  Just like a lot of other things.  So ...


The tiny bathroom where only one person can stand at a time does not have any place for clothes on the floor.  When the clothes that were to be thrown in the basket outside the bathroom didn't reach there, I had to ....


That is his side of the walk-in closet.  I organize it one day, he messes it up again the next.  So I stopped organizing it.  Instead, I put a note on his side of the wall....
... the note, however, has not made any difference as you can see...


I saw the clothes iron hidden behind the door one day.  You know what the note is supposed to guide Alok to do?


Papad (Indian Poppadom) is a necessity for him after every meal.  And seeing his habit, I felt this reminder was a necessity too...


And so was another reminder on the papad container.  Just because.


He leaves the entrance door unlocked.  Whether he goes out, whether he comes in.  Several nights the main door has remained unlocked.  Only to have me panic in morning and look around to check if we had a break-in.
Therefore ...

There were many other notes, on the chair, on the walls, etc that I didn't click.  I didn't think I'd share this on the blog, until my close friend Vidhi told me earlier this year that I should!

As for Alok, whenever he sees a new note he just slaps his forehead saying "arre yaar!" (it's like "c'mon dude!")

Actually, instead of writing messages and my wishes indirectly on my calendar for him to read, I thought direct notes might be more effective.  But have they?  *sigh*  :-)

P.S.:  I'm afraid how Alok is going to comment on this post.  Because I don't keep the apartment any less messy  :P  In my defense, the notes are a reminder for a forgetful and lazy girl like me :D

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23 comments:

  1. lol..interesting.... i will have to put pick me up notes everywhere... he doesn't pick up things which fall to the floor.. and when i tell him at times this is his reply " main giri hui cheezon ko nahi uthata!!!"...

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  2. LOL!! But nice one Nisha! Guess I will have to start doing that for my appt as well :P

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    1. come back and tell me how Ganesh reacts! :D

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  3. great!!! but does this work Nisha. please let me know then I will implement the same in my house too. am sick and tired of things being strewn all over.

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    1. works slowly. first i used to speak out, then i started sticking notes, then i started pointing at the notes and speaking out, until Alok started getting annoyed and started doing what he's supposed to :P

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  4. ohhhhhhhhhhhh myyyyyyyyyyy godddddddddddddd!
    girl.. that is married life... it's annoying at times I admit.
    you really have patience to put up notes for him, I used to nag, but now i politely ask, and sometimes even that doesnt' work.
    MEN! SIGH!

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    1. hehe. i have developed a LOT of patience by now. we all just have to, don't we? ;)

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  5. Welcome to world of absent minded hubbies, fifteen yrs of marriage an same problem here, only now I have developed a thick skin against the untidiness and keep my things totallly seperate from his. I have actually seen my hubby messing up my cupboard searching for his office keys! How he expected them to be in my cupboard, I still don't have any idea. He said I searched everywhere, so I am searching here also. Waah!

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    1. LOL, I see how "totallly" you're keeping it separate :D

      By the way, I read your e-mail and the comment. Thanks so much for the concern, dear. Even Alok was surprised that a blogger friend, who I haven't known for long and haven't even met, could actually be so caring.. *hugs*
      Don't worry, I had got into the habit of checking the door every time :)

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  6. love ur post... it's just 1.5 years, i've completed 8.5 years without much success in changing my hubby's habits... in fact, it seems to get worse that sometimes I feel, my two kids are much better, u can atleast roll your eyes and make them do their things but what would I do with this big boy in the house??? :)

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    1. Haha. I'm enjoying reading how wives are opening up and sharing how they deal with this.
      Thanks for your comment, Rafeeda :)

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  7. Loved this:)if it works let us know,so I will give this suggestions to some other girls too:)

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    1. Has worked 20% so far in my case :D
      Let the girls try. Baaki ka baad mein dekhenge :P

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  8. lol ..this happens in most of the places I guess..though mine is not this bad. touchwood :)

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  9. Hi Dear, first time i am here, i really loved you post. i feel the same, i will also start this now. thanks for such a nice idea dear.
    thanks a lot.
    You can participate in MY FIRST EVENT AND GIVEAWAY-SHOW ME YOUR DESSERT.

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  10. This was such fun to read, I was smiling all the way through. Very innovative. Your hubby is a lucky man :-)

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    1. Thanks :) Too bad HE doesn't think so! :-/

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  11. Nice to meet with you Nisha! Came through "Honey Whats Cooking" blog and I am in love with your posts. I am sure i could use this with my boyfriend :P

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    1. Thanks Dixya, tell me if it worked ;)

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